15. Pronouns: a simple primer and a workshop

Most of the humans on this planet are cis-gendered. For the unitiated, this means that most of us perform the gender that we’ve been born with, and are comfortable with that. Or in other words, I was born with a male body, think of myself as a male, and am completely ok with people thinking of me as male.

Imperfect solutions are still a step forward

Some languages have solutions for this. English doesn’t really have an elegant one. I’ve been introduced to using “them/they/theirs” as a way of dealing with this issue. It’s not perfect, especially when you’re in situations where you need to point out an individual in a group. But for people who deal with constant misgendering, it’s a lot better than nothing.

Workshopping it

At the wizard larp, New World Magischola, they/them/theirs was the default pronoun, and to make people more used to that, a short workshop was run. It was very simple, but a bit of an eye-opener for many people.

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