20. You don’t have to take the debate

This is something I am horrible at. I always feel like I need to defend my choices, my words and my actions. If someone says “But that is dumb/offensive/wrong/crazy”, I’ll almost always jump in feet first. Explaining. Discussing. Rationalising.

Sometimes, you have to care

If the police stop me for riding my bike without lights on, it’s best if I let them have my time. Society functions best that way, I’ve found, and also, it’s better to pay a (fair) fine for biking without lights than to try some hare-brained “escape the police” stunt that may end who-knows-where.

But sometimes you don’t

It can get rather annoying when you forget that you can choose not to engage.

Some don’t have this luxury

There are plenty of people out there who can’t just walk away. Who can’t just ignore, unfriend, unfollow or mentally shut down. But some of us can, and maybe we should start getting better at it. Maybe it’s ok that if you write something that reaches hundreds of people, some will find it insightful and others will find it idiotic.

Director at The College of Extraordinary Experiences, Coach at McKinsey & Founding Partner at The Global Institute For Thought Leadership. Author of 31 books.

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